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It’s because I’m awesome

Prior to mommyhood, I never gave sleep a second thought. I never really needed a whole lot. Even as a teenager I wasn’t one to sleep in until all hours of the day on a regular basis. But now, I realize just what a precious thing sleep is.

At six months old my little darling still is not sleeping through the night. She’ll give me three and half to five hours of sleep in a row but that’s about it, and even that isn’t on a regular basis. Sleep has been the topic of many conversations at my play dates and mommy groups and everyone seems to have a different opinion of what it is that gets a child to sleep through the night.

“They’ll do it when they are ready,” say some. “They need to learn to self sooth,” say others. Pick them up, don’t pick them up,  let them cry, don’t let them cry, don’t rock, do swaddle –anyone who’s ever had a baby seems to have a book about how to put your kid to sleep. (And I feel like I’ve read them all.)

What I’ve learned is, each of these “proven” techniques don’t work on every baby and it’s also not my fault she isn’t sleeping. I’ve come to the conclusion that yes, I can help her  by making sure she’s fed, is dry, and has the right environment but I can’t actually make her stay asleep. That part is up to her.

Some parents are lucky and their kids seem to figure it out early on. Other parents have to go a while longer before they are getting a full night of shut eye. If you’re in my camp, I just drum it up to the fact that my kid loves me so much she just wants to hang out with me all night long. I guess I’m just that awesome. 🙂

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The What If Monster

What if she’s not healthy? What if she stops breathing? What if I forgot to do up the buckle? What if I forget her in the car when I get to the store?

I had no idea I would become so paranoid when I got pregnant, and I surely didn’t think it would be possible for that  paranoia to increase once the baby came.

When I was pregnant I was much better at reining in these roaming thoughts. “You’re healthy, there have been no issues and there is nothing more you can do, what will happen will happen.” That was the mantra that brought me back to reality when the what ifs started. Now I practically have to slap myself to keep my mind from wandering too far down What If lane.

When we first moved the baby from the bassinet in our room to her own room I had the monitor up full blast and the video function on all night. This completely defeated the purpose of moving her. I got more sleep when she was grunting and farting a foot from my bed! Her room is next to ours and I can hear her as clear as day without the monitor but I insisted on sleeping with it one foot from my head.

In the month she’s been in her own room, I’ve since turn the volume down but I still sleep with the video on.

However, I still can’t go to sleep if checking on her isn’t the last thing I do before I got to bed. I’ve tried checking on her before I start my bedtime primping but it always ends with me laying in bed, looking at the monitor and making my husband hold his breath so I can hear her breath. “Shhhh, you’re breathing too loud! I can’t hear her.”  After a few minutes of straining to hear, I get up and check on her again. I’ve learned to pick my battles with the What If Monster and just make the bedtime sneak peak the last thing I do.

I’ve also pulled over while driving to check on her. It’s too quiet, what’s wrong? Admittedly, I only did this once but have resisted the urge more times than I can count.

I find it amazing that Dads don’t seem to have these issues? Why is this? Are they more rational than Moms?

There should be support groups for this stuff!

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